There may be times when people point out your flaws, and you wonder why you have them. Why can't you be perfect? The answer is an easy one; no-one is! That's why it's important to remind yourself of that fact. If you focus on your flaws, you feel negative. Instead, you must learn how to embrace who you are, flaws and all. "Coz you're amazing, just the way you are!" (Did you sing that?)
Certainly, it is easier said than done. If you can embrace your flaws by putting the effort in to do so, you can become a very contented person.
Here are some tips on how you can embrace your flaws and accept yourself.
Stop Believing You Are Not Good Enough
When you think about your flaws too much, you fall into the trap of believing that you are not good enough. You begin to compare yourself to other people. "Why are they so wonderful and I am not?" Instead, you must stop believing that you are inadequate. Accept the wholeness of your being because imperfections are what make you complete.
Your flaws make you unique, so stop trying to fit the mold of what you think is perfect. Don't measure yourself against what others have, or you'll diminish your sense of self-worth. Stop comparing yourself with other people, and you'll be more contented and at peace with yourself.
Look At Your Weaknesses As Strengths
Reframe how you view your flaws as weaknesses as strengths. The difference between the two is more a matter of perception than it is of reality. If you change your perspective, you will also see that these flaws provide you with an opportunity to improve yourself, if that is your goal. Once you have accepted your flaws for what they are, you can make conscious efforts to correct them to be a better version of yourself.
What you believe are your flaws are often the very thing that you need. For instance, your being a perfectionist is what drives you to do a polished job, which makes you excellent in what you do. Your impatience makes you take action immediately, and your brutal honesty makes you not settle for less.
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When you start to pay too much attention to your flaws, you may start to beat yourself up. However, that's not going to do you any good. Instead, you can decide whether you can do something about it or even if you should do anything about it at all. If you think, however, that it can be changed and that you should change it, then go ahead. Take some quiet time for deep self-reflection so you can decide whether you should take action or leave it be.
Look at yourself from the perspective of all the people who love you – your friends, family, colleagues. Do they accept you for who you are, regardless of what imperfections you have? If so, how can you not? Choose what you decide to listen to from your inner critic and practice self-compassion.
Your Flaws Make You Human And Relatable
Your flaws are what make you human and relatable to other people. For every flaw that you have, there is a story you can tell, and that's unique to you. That's what makes you different from other people. When you acknowledge your flaws for exactly what they are, you begin to embrace yourself and see the beauty that's behind them.
Every human being has more than one imperfection, and that's okay. The flaws are what make life more exciting. Imagine a life where everyone was the same – flawless and predictable. It would be monotonous and boring!
So, stop striving for perfection in yourself because that's the one ambition that no one will ever achieve. Instead, celebrate yourself, accept that you have flaws, and decide whether you must do something to improve or just let them be.
Perfection is not the key to happiness; gratitude is. Instead of feeling down and beating yourself up for sucking at something, be grateful for the opportunities they bring for your self-improvement, and also for the uniqueness they give to you.