Life is a continuous journey of transformations; every living being undergoes changes as a part of their existence, be it plants, animals, or the universe. The only thing constant in life is change itself! Resisting it seems pointless. Hence, embracing change is the key to keep growing.
Just like other creatures, humans also experience change. However, the emotional reactions we have towards change often make it more challenging for us. It's because we have the freedom to choose whether to adapt to the change or not.
Change signifies growth, and growth can sometimes be uncomfortable. Often, when we face new changes, we don't immediately associate them with growth, especially if they don't bring instant happiness. We are programmed to accept and stick to the present scenario, even if it's not ideal, rather than seeking change.
However, when life inflicts unbearable pain, we are driven to make changes. This is what prompts us to quit jobs that make us unhappy or exit relationships that have become too painful.
Sometimes, we end up seeking change even when we don't want it. This happens when we find ourselves in situations that we don't see as sustainable in the long run. We embark on changes with the hope of attaining happiness.
Change can be distressing, whether it's self-initiated or thrust upon us by others. Here are some reasons why people often resist change, even when it could be beneficial for them.
Change Can Make Us Feel Powerless
When change is triggered externally, it often gives us a sense of losing control over our lives. This feeling of loss of self-determination, of not having the freedom to choose whether to adapt to the change or not, can cause significant resistance. Our first instinct is often to despise the introduced change.
Change Brings Uncertainty
The adage, ‘better the devil you know than the devil you don't,' perfectly illustrates our fear of the unknown. We often prefer our familiar miseries to the uncertainty that comes with change. Many people choose to remain in unsatisfying situations merely because they're familiar and therefore, less intimidating than the unknown.
Change Can Break Our Habits and Routines
We find comfort in our routines and habits, which are deeply embedded in our subconscious. It's only through introspection that we realize the need for change in certain aspects of our lives.
Often, we hold on to the notion that ‘if it ain't broke, don't fix it'. But, even if something doesn't seem broken, it might still need improvement. It's only when we embrace change that we start seeing different results and a better reality.
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Change Disturbs Our Comfort Zone
We all seek safety, which we find in our comfort zones. Change disrupts this sense of security and forces us out of our comfort zones. This can be uncomfortable, even scary, but if we allow it, it can also be beneficial.
Change Can Evoke Unpleasant Emotions
Change is often seen as a significant event in our lives, ushering in a wave of new realities. It's a psychological experience that can evoke new reactions and unpleasant emotions.
Staying in our comfort zones makes us happy because it provides certainty. Anything unknown can provoke fear and anxiety, making us want to resist and avoid the new. Also, leaving behind a familiar situation can evoke a sense of loss for the past.
Change, by its very nature, is disruptive, which is why we resist it. Understanding why you resist certain changes in your life can give you better control over them, rather than feeling controlled by them.